Gay Marriage Pioneer to DC: You Owe Me

Dean wants his second wedding to happen here

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    Gay marriage could be coming to Washington in just a couple of months, and one man says he deserves the district's first license.

    Craig Dean and his partner sued the city in 1990 for the right to be legally wed. They even recited their vows in front of thousands on Constitution Ave. It was 1993, and Dean and boyfriend Patrick Gill headlined what was billed as the largest gay marriage ceremony at the time.

    Dean, 29, and Gill, 26, were celebrities after suing the city of Washington for denying them a marriage license. They'd been on CNN, were profiled in The Washington Post and sat on Oprah's couch.

    And though they lost their landmark case, the city last month finally did what it had refused to do back then: Legalize gay marriage. 

    Dean now lives in South Carolina and got engaged to his current partner on Christmas. Dean says he agreed on one condition: He wants a Washington wedding.

    Dean, who now lives in South Carolina and runs a talent agency for gay and lesbian speakers, said he cried when he read the news.

    "They owe me a marriage license,'' he said.

    The law still has to survive a review by Congress, which has final say over the district's laws. Lawmakers appear unlikely to intervene though, so gay couples could be marrying in Washington -- legally this time -- by March. It would be the sixth place in the country where gay marriages are allowed. And Dean, who carries bittersweet memories of his and Gill's pioneering effort, wants the first spot in line.

    Dean and Gill were not practiced advocates when they applied for a marriage license in November 1990. Dean had just graduated from Georgetown University's law school. Gill worked in the men's accessories department of Macy's, selling pens and umbrellas.

    But Dean was "young and brash and ambitious and forthright,'' said their lawyer, William Eskridge Jr., and Gill, though less publicly confident, was "charming'' and a "babe.'' They made for a model case, Eskridge said.

    "It was really the first lawsuit of this new era,'' said Eskridge, a Georgetown law professor at the time who now teaches at
    Yale University.

    Just filing for the marriage license made many established gay groups angry. Some thought the pair was asking for too much and
    feared a backlash. Lambda Legal Defense Fund executive director Tom Stoddard called their challenge "shortsighted.''

    Washington was "probably the worst jurisdiction in the country'' to try to legalize same-sex marriage, said Stoddard, an influential advocate who died of AIDS in 1997. Let other places do it first, he urged, then come back to the city.

    Dean didn't back down, drawing motivation from the time Gill was rushed to the hospital and Dean hurried to the emergency room, only to be told he couldn't see his partner. If they were married, things would be different, Dean thought. So he researched the
    city's laws and was convinced nothing in the code prevented them from getting married.

    The lawsuit went on five years. Ultimately, a three-judge panel of the D.C. Court of Appeals ruled against the pair. District laws
    were never intended to let gay couples marry, wrote Judge John Ferren, who still sits on the court.

    His colleague, John Terry, also a sitting justice, was more blunt: "They are, of course, free to refer to their relationship by whatever name they wish. But it is not a marriage, and calling it a marriage will not make it one.''

    For Dean, the defeat was personal. Dean said he believes the pressure of the case also affected the health of his boyfriend, who
    had AIDS.

    "He was really holding on in the hopes that we would win,'' Dean said.

    Gill died in June 1997, just over two years after the decision.

    "Whether it became legal or not, he was my husband,'' Dean said. "If anything it was a marriage in the way we lived our lives.''

    In Dean's garage sit five boxes with typed briefs, notes and letters from the case. A marriage rights banner he helped carry in marches in San Francisco and Washington is in his attic.

    His current partner, photographer John Blevins, told him not to cry when the district passed its law last month; he should be proud. Blevins and Dean met several months ago on a blind date, but their romance has moved fast. On Christmas, Blevins put a ring in Dean's stocking and asked, "Would you do the honor of marrying me?''

    "Yes,'' Dean said, as long as he gets a real Washington wedding.

    And he has a message for the marriage bureau: "The first name on the list should be the one who is waiting 20 years.''