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Andrews chats with Niteside about her upcoming memoir, dating in D.C. and how difficult it is to create your own path as a successful woman in one of the most powerful cities in the nation.
The book is really a tongue-in-cheek depiction of single living in D.C. Still what are some dating tips you would give to women looking for a mate in the District? I never give advice because I'm not an expert, but I will tell you what I tell my girls. ... We can fall into certain patterns when it comes to our dating life. Why are you constantly going to the same club that you can't stand, thinking you're going to meet someone there? You've got to switch it up. ... Don't fall into the same pattern, the same routine. That's going to yield the same results.
Tell me about being set up with Reggie Love? Honestly it was a total non-date. ...Maureen Dowd, who I used to work with at The New York Times, mentioned Reggie to me more than once just saying that we should meet. ...I was thinking to myself, "Oh, whatever!" because I didn't know much about him... [but] we met at Marvin. He was a perfect gentleman, very nice, and it was very obvious that we were only there because Maureen set it up and we didn't want to say, "No." ... We had two beers and then he walked me home at the end of it and said, "I'd be honored if we can hang out when I get back in town," because he was still on the campaign trail. He wasn't even living here! I'm sure he only said that because he's a nice guy.
Most people heard your name and your book "Bitch is the New Black" from a profile written about you in The Washington Post. The feature caused such a stir in D.C. and across the Internet. Do you think that article painted an accurate picture of you? I think the article depicted one side of me but it's not the only side. In the end, it kind of proved my point, and it's why I wrote the book "Bitch is the New Black." You see only one side of a woman and you might think she's a bitch [or] she's cold but you don't know the rest of her.
How do you feel about the negative backlash the article produced? Did it change your writing? No! God. Not in the least. It's funny when people talk about the negative backlash because the positive energy was ten times greater. ... If you write for critics then you aren't a writer.
Ultimately, do you want the family, the kids, the house with picket fence plus dog? I have absolutely no idea. You know what? No, living in the suburbs would steal part of my soul. I'm not positive that I want to have kids. ... I don't know. My life right now is deciding what's important to me and how I see myself as successful. ...I think I'm doing things how I'm supposed to be doing them.